December 27, 2012

Lost and Found

As I sit at the computer, both of my boys are playing a new video game punctuated with cheers and laughter.  An occasional argument and accusations of cheating will erupt requiring a simple threat to turn off the game to restore order to that side of the room.  My man is in his office trying to finish some last minute expense reports so his picture is not the one hanging in the accountant's office being used as target practice.

Our tree is blinking but is bare underneath.  There are random gifts scattered, leftovers in the refrigerator, and a pile of dirty stretchy pants in my room.  All signs of the Christmas season coming to an end.

It has been a day of responding to neglected emails and wrapping up other loose ends before the end of the year.  I feel the need to somehow document this holiday season but have been putting it off for fear that my quest for joy in the last few months will be a journey I would rather forget.

Three days ago I sat in a pew during Christmas Eve service and wished I was anywhere else but there.  Singing rang out all around me and I went from complete disdain to a puddle of tears in a matter of minutes.

Somehow, somewhere, I had lost my joy.

I don't think I realized how bad it was until a month ago when I was standing in the kitchen with my sister after a great day.  We were chatting when suddenly I looked at her and told her that I felt happy.  True and complete happiness and it was so out of the blue, and definitely outside of what had become normal for me, that I had to give voice to it.

There is no one event to blame.  There is no one person to blame.  Life has just been more challenging and my suit of armour has been hanging in my closet gathering dust.

I am a girl in need of a new beginning.  A girl who needs Joy in her life once again.  A girl that needs to desperately seek her Messiah every single day.

A girl who is remembering that all those things were promised long ago when a Babe was born.

Merry Christmas to me.

November 07, 2012

You're Not The Boss of Me

I remember thinking when the boys were really little that I couldn't wait for the day when they were older and had a healthy respect for my authority.

Parental innocence is darling, isn't it?

It wasn't long ago that I went toe to toe with Nathan over an issue and he looked me right in the eye and declared that I was not the boss of him.  It was all I could do not to laugh and then run straight for the phone to call my mom to let her know that yes, indeed, it was payback time.

Growing up I was strong willed and defiant.  I don't think I had many normal conversations with my parents because it didn't matter what they said, I knew they were wrong.  About everything.  They had very high hopes that I would take my incredible and well practiced talent for arguing and become a lawyer.

I would have so rocked a pencil skirt.

I didn't like being told "no" and it infuriated me when my Dad would remain so calm while I yelled and carried on.  I can't even mention the word "Algebra" and he goes pale remembering those horrid study sessions where I took out all my mathematical angst on him.

There was the time I ran away because I didn't want to do my chores.  I actually climbed out my window and made it as far as the front door before I took my big bad self back inside.  I even remember the fake fur coat I was wearing.  It was gray.  And I think it might have possibly been made out of some sort of material that would have instantly combusted anywhere near an open flame.

Or the time I thought selling emergency panic buttons to elderly people was going to make me my first million.  I was in my early 20's and told my parents to get ready for retirement because I was fixing to make it big.  They were worried.  They warned.  They tried to be logical.  I would have none of it because it was what I wanted and no one was going to tell me otherwise.

I clearly wasn't the pleasant, compliant, meek person that I am today.
(let's pause while Scot regains his composure)

Recently I have been on my knees about a lot of issues.  More than normal.  Gut wrenching, tear my hair out, hide under the covers kind of stuff.  Stuff about me, my family and some very dear friends that are having everything pulled out from under them.

Honestly, I feel like God is moving very slowly or not at all.  I want to pitch a royal fit.  Or better yet, run away in a synthetic fur coat.  He is not doing things the way I want them to be done.

"You're not the boss of me!"

How badly I have wanted to tell Him that.  Maybe even yell it.  It is so very tempting to just take matters into my own hands.  I'll rant and rave and lose all self-control because it makes me feel better.  Manipulate situations so it turns out the way I want it to.  I'll let loose on some anger issues I've been having.  I'll walk away from women's ministry.  I'll do whatever I want to do.  I, I,, me, me.

And when I am finally quiet enough for His still, small voice to get through the madness in my head, I can hear Him tell me that He is moving.  He does see.  He does care.  He does love.  He does listen.  He does speak.  He does know everything.

This relationship between God and myself is not one that was forced upon me.  It is one that I chose.  That I still choose.  It means I don't get to walk away just because things aren't going the way I want them to.  It means I press in harder and get to know Him better and take comfort in his sovereignty. It means that He is giving me time to strengthen my faith.  A faith that wains when life is too easy.

Then I wait.  And I honor Him by not losing all control and walking away.  I ask for a glimpse, however small, into the work that He is doing in and around me and I wait.

I looked at Nathan that day and told him that yes, I was the boss of him.  Not because I want to make his life miserable, but because I love him and sometimes a bigger perspective trumps his pride.  I told him that he needed to trust me.

Hmmm......maybe parents aren't so stupid after all.

October 25, 2012

My Choice

It's funny how ironic life can be.

I have been toying with the idea of writing a blog post chronicling all the reasons I've been down in the dumps lately.  I was even going to call it "Here's Your Violin" as a nod to that tiny gesture between an index finger and a thumb that takes a complaint and puts it in its proper place.

I was going to write about how much I abhor saying good-bye to several dear friends leaving this all this leaving rocks the world of a girl who loves deeply.

The fact that I'm having some sort of mid life crisis and am feeling hugely unfulfilled right now resulting in a conversation with Scot about going back to school to become Something.  Because for some reason I think becoming something else other than what I am will fix everything.

Being sick for a week that left me exhausted and very vulnerable to some pretty ugly mind games that on the flip side I'm still trying to sort through.

Feeling a little helpless.  Or a lot helpless.

But then this morning, my sweet Grandma died.

And I wasn't there.

Just like three years ago when my Grandma June died right after we moved to Singapore.....I was stuck here and unable to get to my family.

Helpless.  In a "I want to scream and scream and scream" kind of way.

I wasn't at her bedside because I was in Cambodia.  Learning and being a part of something that is working hard to bring hope to children that are in a hopeless situation.  It is ugly.  It is awful.  It is gut wrenchingly sad.  It is evil.

I spent the day in the midst of people who have to rely on God's goodness to survive.  Who have more faith than anyone I know.  Who are doing so much good and are willing to give up anything and everything to make a difference in the lives of kids who experience horrors no human should ever experience.

Hope.  They live it every single day because they have to.  And let me tell you, it would be super easy to feel helpless in that situation and not one person would blame them.....and yet they choose to hope.

Today I am mourning the loss of a woman that I adored.  A woman that made the best fruit salad in the world,  took me to get my first pair of contact lenses, taught me how to drive a stick shift, let me play dress up with her fantastic collection of clip on earrings, showed me that the best place to keep a spare Kleenex is in your bra, called me her "Pumpkin" and used words like "Pish-ah".  I inherited my dangerous love of sweets from her and the attitude that ice cream is good any time of the day and that candy dishes are meant to be filled.  She was proud and beautiful and I am going to miss her desperately.

But I can't feel helpless because she couldn't wait to meet Jesus and that's where she is right now.


It's a beautiful thing.  It's the only thing that gets you out of bed some mornings.

I have to choose hope.  Hope that all the things I've been struggling with will make me stronger.  Hope that in the midst of saying good-bye to people I love I will learn how to make the most of every moment.  Hope that God has a plan for my life that will leave me feeling fulfilled.

Hope for one child child child that learns what love feels like.

Hope that one day I will see my beautiful Grandma again even though I will desperately miss her presence here on earth.

I have to choose hope.

September 17, 2012

God and a Turkish Bath

I wrote this while still in Istanbul....we are now home and I'm just waiting for the unpacking fairy to show up and put everything away while I sleep for the next 3 days.

I am sitting at the airport waiting on our flight home to Singapore.  The man right across from me is currently shaving his face with his electric razor, which would be odd except the bar for being odd is set really, really high after the week we just had.

About three months ago, Scot and I had to sit down and browse through a list of tours and activities for the conference we'd be attending here in Istanbul.  At the time, we saw there was a limit of 40 people for the Turkish Bath experience and our competitive natures immediately kicked in.

We made it on the list and a round of high fives and fist pumping ensued as we celebrated our victory.

It wasn't until we arrived that we realized what we had done.  I don't exactly know what I thought a Turkish Bath would entail but I think I had Turkish Bath confused with Super Modest Spa Day.

The Turkish Baths, or Hammans, were a big topic of conversation and reality began to set in.  It was going to involve unclothed people all in the same room and I don't necesarily enjoy being around unclothed people.

The day arrived and I packed a small bag in anticipation of what I might need for the experience.  I packed some make-up to reapply in case my face got wet, dry underwear in case the underwear I was wearing got wet (because there was "no way Jose" that I was taking it off), and my glasses just in case my contacts were itchy after having my eyes closed during a luxurious massage.

I am giggling just reliving how naive I was.

It was time to load the in one bus and women in the other.  When we arrived at the Hamman, we filed off the bus and into the building.  I cast furtive glances around me noting the nearest exits.

We were ushered into a large room where we were told to pick a room and take our clothes off.  I walked into my little room and closed the door.  There was a barely-bigger-than-a-handkerchief piece of fabric sitting on the chair in the room.  I quickly undressed and wrapped the barely there handkerchief around myself and walked out the door.  I was told to put on a pair of wooden sandals and to follow the other women into an inner room.

I walked into a cavernous space made completely out of marble.  It was spectacular with a domed ceiling, alcoves all around with small fountains and in the middle, a large round marble platform.  The ladies from our group were all nervously sitting on the platform wrapped in their tiny pieces of fabric.  It was very warm and extremely humid in the room with the sound of running water and nervous chatter amplified by the cavernous space.

One by one a group of Turkish women entered the room to find the lady they were assigned to.  I watched as those going first had their barely there fabric ripped off of them, much to the surprise of the women, and they were told to lie down on the platform.  

This part of the story I will edit as I do have men children that will read this blog.  And my man that reads this blog and he has heard in detail the whole story and he still doesn't want to read about it again.

Where was I?

Oh, right.

There were those who were very comfortable with the whole situation and those that clearly were not.  It didn't help that you were turned side to side, made to sit up, have water dumped on you and to actually walk across the room in all your glory.

If you want more details, let's plan a lunch date.

I happened to be in the second group of women and was told to sit and wait for my turn.  I sat huddled in a corner holding tightly to my barely there piece of fabric wondering how in the world one month I can be sitting at Chuys eating chips and salsa and the next month I am in a room full of Turkish women waiting my turn to have one give me a bath.

I was thrilled to see that the lady assigned to me was using an obscure corner of the room instead of the large platform in the middle.  Don't think for a second that I didn't strongly contemplate getting up and shuffling out of the large marble room in my wooden sandals and handkerchief.  I think the mixture of horror and fascination kept me rooted right where I was.  That, and a healthy fear that my Turkish lady would come after me if I tried to leave.

When it was my turn, the lady motioned for me to go to a spot on the platform.  I motioned to her that I wanted the obscure corner.  She smiled sweetly at me and firmly pointed to the platform.

I laid down on the big platform, sucked in my stomach, and prayed that maybe I had become invisible and no one in that room actually saw me.  My lady started the harsh scrubbing of all the skin and then the water dumped on me and then more washing and more water and lots of walking around during all of this, all the while engaging my core muscles willing my body to suddenly look like a size 2.....heck, I'd have been happy for a size 8!

Naked people can't be choosy people.

There was something very tender and sweet about the Turkish lady assigned to me.  She would hold my hand everytime we walked somewhere so I didn't slip and fall and by the time we got to the end where she was massaging my back, I was actually a little more relaxed.  She walked me into a room when we were finished and wrapped a towel around me and another around my hair and sent me on my way.

I realized how similar the whole experience was to women at church.  We walk in and are immediately fighting feelings of nervousness or of being judged.  We are so tempted to bail but curiosity keeps us rooted to our seats.  We watch ladies who are comfortable with being vulnerable and we wonder if we could ever feel the same.

Many times we feel like what little we are wearing is ripped off, and all of us.....the good, the bad, the wrinkles, the rolls.....they are all exposed.  That all our attempts at creating a perfect facade still won't hide the reality underneath.  Maybe, like me, there is considerable scarring that highlights the imperfections.

And then we have an encounter with God that is not based on perfection, but based solely on love.  That the more we understand that He loves us unconditionally and does not want to hurt us, the more we become comfortable with being vulnerable.

That sometimes He walks us around to show others our imperfections because those things make us beautiful.  To reveal our scars because they prove there was healing....the whole time holding our hand to keep us from falling.

I walked out of that Hamman with a smile because I always love the surprise of a life lesson from something so peculiar.

And then I saw Scot rocking in a corner sucking his thumb and mumbling to himself.  Clearly, being rubbed down by a Turkish man (and yes, he got to keep his covering on the whole time) did not leave him contemplating spiritual matters.

Poor guy.

August 24, 2012

A pitiful walk down memory lane

It's been two weeks exactly since we left the good 'ol state of Texas and headed back to Asia.  It has been two weeks of a not very fun Keri as I have worked through all the emotions of transitioning from one life to another.

I'm not going to lie. There has been some carnage left in my wake these last couple weeks.  

Like the first day when I went to the grocery store to get ingredients for hamburgers just to be told that I would have to come back for hamburger buns because they only made four bags of them that day and someone had already purchased them.  


I came home and threw some groceries around and yelled at Scot about hating this place...because that's what you do when you're emotionally on edge.  You go for the juglar.  Say irrational things.  Over exaggerate.  Eat a bag of chocolate.  

And then there was the clerk at a different grocery store that wouldn't let me buy 2 mangos because they were priced 3 for $5.  Even after I did the math for him he still wouldn't let me buy just 2.  He also got an earful of irrational, on the edge, craziness.  I guarantee that I gave him enough material to keep him popular in the break room for weeks.

As for the chocolate?  Those three bags of Halloween candy I brought back from proud of myself for thinking ahead?  Let's just say that I have been having a trick-or-treat party for one.  

Two weeks into it and I am much better.  School is underway and my calendar is filling up with commitments and fun stuff.  

Hamburger buns have been purchased and's all good.

While summer is still fresh on our minds, here is a quick run down of our time at home with a pitiful photo montage that doesn't do our summer justice:

Good food

Good friends

Good creamy jalapeƱo dip 

A not so good surprise surgery that had a happy ending (still can't swim but his hearing is better than it was before the surgery and we are exceedingly grateful for this!)

A good visit to my happy place

A wedding for a dear college friend

A visit with Scot's family

And his sweet 97 year old Grandma

A very festive 4th of July lady and two sweet boys

A Singapore friend, her new house in Houston, and Sonic Diet Coke

An incredible evening with friends coming together for a good cause.....

Collecting school supplies for moms and kids that really needed our help.

A too fast visit to California to see my parents

My very handsome (and very taken) brothers.....

My sister-in-law and adorable nephew.....

Back to Texas for final hugs and good-byes with friends

And a final Mexican dinner
Not pictured?  Lots of family and friends that I adore.  I'll blame it on soaking in every second of face time I had and not wanting to take a single second to snap a picture.  To each of you that I saw and visited with and hugged and laughed with.....I loved every single moment I had with you.

In the two weeks since I've been back I've had 2 fateful aforementioned grocery store visits, put two boys into middle school, eaten lots of Halloween candy, started my running club, and have only pulled the covers over my head, not to come out for several hours, one day.  One.  

I did have to say a very tearful good-bye to my very first friend in Singapore.  Just over two years ago she walked into a room with Texas written all over her and became a very dear friend.  Tiffany, life here just won't be the same without you!!  I miss you every day.  

 And tonight my baby boy went to his first boy/girl dance.

Which he clearly loved.  

It's going to be an interesting year.

Where's my Halloween candy?

July 23, 2012

Dude, read your letter

Yesterday we loaded up the car with trunks and bedding and headed off for wasn't a moment too soon.

If I had to live another day with boys who could literally argue about anything and everything, I was going to start pulling out my eyelashes one by one.

The sky is blue.
No it isn't.
What do you mean it isn't?  Open your eyes!
It's merely a reflection of the earth's surface.
Dude!  Seriously?  The sky is up and it's the color blue.
But it isn't really the color of the sky.
Who cares?
Anyone who has brains cares.

Then in all my parenting wisdom I tell them both to be quiet and proceed to inform them that no one wants to be near them, be with them, or be in their general vicinity when they act like that.

I know.  Blow your socks off mothering amazingness right there.  You can borrow that approach to sibling rivalry if you'd like.

It works not at all.

I have tried having the very rational discussion about how it's pride that motivates them to try to outdo each other.  To be the one that always has to be right.  But they are far too young to see the carnage that pride can leave in its path so I resort to things like "No one will like you".

God must be so proud.

Many months ago after a particularly embarrassing display of "brotherly love" while out with friends, I made them write each other a letter of apology that had to be at least two paragraphs long and include three things they liked about the other.  It had to be pre-approved by me so I could ensure it was somewhat sincere and wasn't just stuff like "I like you most when you aren't anywhere near me".

Remember that these are boys.

We are not a house that has a supply of gel pens and cute papers and little notebooks.  We are a house with boys who have terrible handwriting and dislike most forms of communication.

It was perfect.

They grumbled about the task at hand but both sat down and completed their notes.  They exchanged them and I was very intrigued to watch them so eagerly pour over the letter written to them.  It immediately diffused the situation and I decided to permanently adopt this tactic in dealing with the bickering.  I add paragraphs and topics to be written about depending on the severity of the crime and on the inside I laugh at their misery....the way we all do when we have stumbled upon the perfect consequence for a misdeed.

Mwah hahahaha

Or am I the only one that does that?  Please tell me I'm not.

I have to say that this summer has been.......I am not even sure of the right word to use.

Unexpected?  Crazy?  Surprising?  Fun in a "I don't know what's coming next" kind of way?

There have been moments I have found myself feeling anxious or insecure or mad and it makes me want to lash out at people around me.  I have pretend conversations in my head where I tell someone what I really think about them.  I want to pick a fight.  And use bad words.  I want to abandon all self-control and try some hair-pulling just to see if I would feel better.

Until I read a love letter that was written to me.  It includes more than three things He likes about me and covers a whole lot of topics.  My heart softens and the anger subsides.  Priorities fall into place and order is restored in my thinking.

And I can tell you with absolute certainty that the sky is most definitely blue.

June 27, 2012

Before he goes.....

I just handed Garrett over to a surgeon, an anesthesiologist, and some nurses.  It all happened much more quickly than I had anticipated because the doctor was running early.  When does that happen??

I made significant eye contact with every surgeon and nurse that will have their hands on him.  Staring everyone down so that my face is seared in their brain as they make that first incision.

This is my baby boy, who is clearly not a baby anymore, but as long as I live he will always be my baby boy.  He is funny and quirky and happy-go-lucky.  He loves his family and is happiest with a homemade meal and a table that isn't missing a single one of his people.  

He loves Jesus and believes that God answers prayer.  He isn't perfect but he loves without prejudice.  He likes to know stuff.....stuff no one else cares about.  He is amazing with little kids.  He wants to see the Rangers win the World Series.

He wants to see more of this world, he wants to learn how to drive, he wants to be a better guitarist.  He wants to grow up and get married and have kids of his own.  He wants to see the new Spiderman movie and play his new xBox game.  

This patient on your gurney is my son.  My sweet boy.  Be alert, do your job well.  Take out what doesn't belong and return him to me whole....he has a big life yet to live.

Somehow I don't think they got all of that in my one simple stare down.  I think they got more of a "crazy mom" vibe.

My prayers for today:

The surgery involves them cutting his ear and pulling it forward to get behind the bone where the inner ear bones are.  He lost two of those bones in the last surgery and they were replaced with titanium.  This tumor has grown over the titanium so they have to take it out and clean it and then replace it.  My prayer is that he doesn't lose the third inner ear bone and that the titanium is replaced correctly so he doesn't lose any more of his hearing.

I am praying protection all around the facial nerve that runs so close to where the surgery is happening.

I am praying the doctor is 100% focused on what he's doing.

I am praying that Garrett doesn't have any reaction to the anesthesia and recovers quickly.

I am praying for a lot of things but those are the biggies right now.

And then there's my imagination where I envision all the doctors having a fight or discussing a love triangle just before something goes wrong and that's when I realize that I shouldn't base all my medical assumptions on what I've seen on Gray's Anatomy.

June 21, 2012

Going for a long run.....

I have no business writing Facebook posts.

I don't know if it's a need for character development, a love of details, an attempt to insert wit, or caving to my tendency to over-communicate.  My updates quickly become long paragraph messages that can create some "lost in translation" situations.

Yesterday I posted that we received bad news about a tumor in Garrett's ear.  I managed to keep that post relatively short and was extremely proud of myself considering how many details are involved.  I was overwhelmed by the sweet responses and immediate prayers being offered on our behalf.

The next couple of hours involved me crying, talking to my mom, Scot and I having good conversation, Scot and I being irritated at each other, Scot and I being nice again, a trip to Home Depot and Chick-fil-A for friends, a trip to Whataburger for my boys, and a haircut for Garrett.

Needless to say, by the time we got home, I was a tad frazzled (and bloated) and anxious to get on the phone to find out why we didn't have an appt with Garrett's doctor yet.  My conversation with the nurse was frustrating until we finally had a breakthrough that involved a cancellation allowing us an appointment with the doctor today.

I was thrilled and decided to post the good news about getting the appt on Facebook.

And then I thought I'd throw in something witty just to show that I was actually handling all of this ok.  Here is the post:

Was on the phone with the doctor's office regarding Garrett....getting frustrated because the doctor was trying to schedule surgery and I want to talk to him first but there are no appointments for that when "all of a sudden" they had a cancellation for 10:30 tomorrow morning. Huge answer to prayer because Scot can go. Next prayer? The doctor tells us he was having a bad ENT day and looked at the wrong scan and there is no tumor. Believing BIG!! Thank you, thank you, thank you for the love and prayers!

What I should have done was end the thing after my "Huge answer to prayer because Scot can go" comment.

But noooooo..........

I started getting a few "Praise God" responses which were sweet.  Then a few texts about what a miracle the whole thing was.

Trust me, I was thrilled that we got the doctor's appt but was a little mystified at it actually being a miracle.

Then a few more messages about a huge answer to prayer and I really started to think that I clearly did not give God enough credit for how amazing eveyone seemed to think it was that we were able to get a doctor's appt.

It was the text message from a friend telling me that she would never trust a doctor who had bad ENT days and couldn't even read a CT scan that I realized that what I meant to be a flippant commentary on a prayer request was being read as fact.

And then there was mass confusion among 58 people.

The real story is that there was no mistake in scans.  Our miraculous doctor's appointment was this morning and all four Jenkins were stuffed in a small exam room where all the boys got an excercise in self-control by resisting the temptation to push lots of buttons and race around on wheeled chairs.

The doctor came in and told us that what we had hoped was just scar tissue after last year's CT scan had actually grown in size to 6mm and needed to be removed immediately before Garrett was in danger of losing the last of his three inner ear bones.

For those of you scratching your heads wondering what in the world I am talking is the post I wrote in 2009 when we went through all of this for the first time.

He won't be able to swim for 2 months and can't fly for 3 weeks after surgery.  All our plans for a trip to California to visit friends and family, swimming, a flight home early for Garrett to go to Boy Scout camp in Thailand....all of it out the window.

But it's ok.  It's ok because it isn't cancer.  Garrett's life is not in danger.  We have a wonderful house to stay in all summer and incredibly supportive family and friends.  It's ok.

Then another miracle happened in the form of a cancelled appointment and we were able to schedule the surgery for this next Wednesday.  Scot will still be in town and that is a big, big deal for both Scot and Garrett.

Just prior to leaving Singapore I went crazy for 4 minutes and decided to join a running club that was started by a friend of mine.  I joined not because I love fact, I despise running which doesn't work well for someone joining a running club.  I joined because they look like they have so much fun together and I always like the idea of a good challenge.

I know that I need to be able to run 4 miles by the time I get back in Singapore so as soon as I landed in Texas and went to Chuy's, I started strapping on my tennis shoes and hitting the trails.  Every other day I run and it has gotten easier and easier and I despise it just slightly less now than I did 2 weeks ago.

It makes me think of the verse in Hebrews 12:

......and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.....

Every difficult situation, tough day, depressing moment.....every time we have a chance to choose God, we are running.  It might be a short run, it might be a long run, but every time we choose Him over our temptation to be anxious and worry and melt down.....we are training to have the endurance and preseverance to run the race marked out for us. 

Our little family has had a lot of training over the years.  We aren't perfect and there is much more to learn, but this particular race we can run.  

I can't thank you all enough for cheering us on to the finish line.  

I'll be the one in the back wearing a sports bra, big t-shirt, and long shorts (so my thighs don't rub together) limping across the finish line.....but I will finish.

June 05, 2012

Let's see how close I really get.....

Our plane leaves Singapore in 8 hours.

Have I packed?   No

Have I slept?  Not in the last couple of days

Have I done random tasks like cleaning packets of Kleenex and tons of hair accessories out of every purse and bag I own?  Definitely

Because that is going to make a HUGE difference in preparing me to leave Singapore for nine weeks.

And now I am hanging out on my computer updating the blog for the seven....I mean zero.....people that are sitting on the edge of their seats wondering if I will actually get packed in time to leave.

Oh!  I did find my missing Chuy's gift card from a good friend who happens to be the same good friend picking me up from the airport and taking me straight to Chuys.  I found it while cleaning out the random junk drawer in our desk.  The gift card is now safely in my purse.  A purse that is void of loose change, extra hair clips, and Kleenex packs.

I packed the boy's stuff which took about 5 minutes since they each have very few clothing items that actually still fit.

I worked my way through a stack of papers that have been sitting here for 3 months and filed everything away.

I peeled the extra glue off my eyelids left over from the false eyelashes I was sporting last night for a fun Indian dinner celebrating a friend.

I went and got my nails done because that is very important.  Not.

I completely forgot a doctor's appointment for Garrett to get a form signed for a camp he's attending this summer.  After some begging and pleading the nurse allowed us to come but refused to look at me or speak to me when I got there.  And I may or may not have stolen someone's taxi in our rush to make the appointment where I was ignored and shunned.

I found out that Garrett is over 5'7" and I immediately ordered him to stop growing.

I met up with friends for a last hoorah and fought back loads of emotion with the last round of good-byes.

I finished my 10th load of laundry today.  I would do laundry any day of the week over packing.
Any.  Day.

I sorted through all the random socks that have piled up for a year and after much contemplation, I threw away all the ones that don't have a partner.  It had to be done.

I've moved all my Singapore stuff out of my wallet and moved all my American stuff in.  American money, driver's license, and frequent shopper cards for 194 stores.  

I bought some plants for my apartment from a neighbor that is moving to California and quickly realized there was no way they could be moved without super human strength.  Then ensued a strategy meeting of dates and times and schedules of movers......revealing where our hidden key is, the promise from a friend to water the plants and figuring out where in the world I was going to put them.  The glitz and glamour of condo life!

I looked through Nathan's yearbook clinging to every moment of elementary school-dom that I can.  He is absolutely not allowed to grow up either.

I cleaned out my produce drawer since there's no way Scot is eating a bag of carrots, lettuce, 3 tomatoes, and some questionable bananas between now and when he leaves for a business trip on Sunday.

I spent some time wishing I had stopped eating cookies 97 days ago.

I actually put my suitcase in my room.  Baby steps, people.  Baby steps.

I spent time during my quiet time trying to come up with something inspiring to write as another year comes to a close in Singapore.

I've got nothing.  I wish I did, but nope.  Nothing.

I will say this.....I love Jesus and I really need to pack.

The end.

May 30, 2012

She Chose Him

She walked next to me a year ago and told me that she didn't know if she could survive extreme persecution.  If in a pivotal life or death moment she could trade her life for claiming Him as her God.

I told her that we had to do that every day.  That our lives don't require us to make a decision that would determine if we'd be seeing Him face to face that day, but that every moment of every day we have to choose.

We choose to love or we choose to hate.

We choose to be bold or we choose to deny.

We choose to be an example or we choose to compromise.

We choose to deny ourselves or we choose to indulge our flesh.

She is now walking through an event that will change her family forever.  A moment in time that changes hopes and dreams for a child.

And she has chosen to trust.

To not question but to hang on and have faith in extreme circumstances.  In a difficult life situation she has chosen Him.  She is clinging to Him with her whole entire being because her survival requires nothing less.

She chose Him.

I love you EC!

May 29, 2012

I am 16 going on 42....

I don't necesarily remember taking my driving test when I turned 16.  I was finishing my Junior year in high school and the lure of freedom was almost more than I could stand.

Well,  the kind of freedom that comes from sharing your dad's green Nova.....and being the first teenager in the house to drive.

Ok, so there wasn't much freedom but I was excited all the same.

Taking the test to get your driver's license here in Singapore causes great dread in all expats.  Many a lawyer and CEO have been taken down by the test and no one approaches it lightly.  You have to book your test time weeks in advance and it is recommended that you start studying from that moment until you sit in the chair at your Station wiping sweaty palms on your pants ready to face one of life's biggest challenges.

I personally know people who have failed this thing more than once so I had a healthy respect for the test but again, just like when I was 16, the lure of potential freedom was all the motivation I needed.

In true Keri fashion, it got to be 2 days before my test and I still hadn't studied. My friends were nearly frantic in their concern that I would join the ranks of those that had gone before and failed.

It's not that I consider myself above studying or think that I have an innate sense of exactly how many meters one must park from a bus stop, it's just that I can't seem to do anything ahead of time.  I can't pack until I'm down to the wire, I can't work on a project until it's almost too late, and I can't study for anything until I reach a near panic over failing.  I've always been like that.

Last Tuesday I finally sat down and started learning all about bus lanes and odd signage and rules for tunnels and lorries and taxis.  I had to identify the bonnet and boot of a car and figure out which side of the steering wheel the blinker was on.

Thursday I walked into the Driving Center and took my place in line.  I handed the lady my identification and went to my station.  Everyone in the room looked around nervously in anticipation of the 50 questions that would determine our freedom.  We had to choose from one of four languages to take the test and I can't tell you how tempting it was to pick Mandarin just for the fun of it.

The test began and I wiped my sweaty palms on my pants, cracked my knuckles, took a deep breath, said a prayer and went to work.  Ok, so that's a tad dramatic.  I did say a prayer because I just know that I know that I know that God wants me to be able to drive here.

I got through all 50 questions with only one or two causing me to pause.  I sat there as the light blinked at me to end the test.  I pushed the button and PASS flashed up on the screen.  Score?  100%.

I resisted the temptation to throw up my hands to declare myself the winner for finishing first.  Not that it was a competition or anything.  I walked up, grabbed the pink sheet that was the only thing between me and a driver's license.

Except you can't get a driver's license here unless you can show them your driver's license from home.  And my license was tucked neatly away in my safe at our apartment.

Today I went back with all the proper paperwork in order and was first in line ready for my license. Everything went kind of smoothly......only a little sweet talking involved in pushing everything through and I walked out with freedom in my hand.

I enjoyed telling my boys all about my escapades and victory in getting my license and that's when Nathan asked,

So does this mean you're going to drive a taxi now?

Um, no. 

But don't tempt me.

May 28, 2012

Monday Musings...Conveniently

I am finding it increasingly more difficult to think in one coherent stream of thought in these last few days before heading home.  It works well in my favor that today is Monday so I can kinda pretend that throwing out a Monday Musings was in the plan all along!

Welcome to the chaos that is inside my no particular order.

1.  You may remember this post from last Spring about buying a bunch of Spode Turkey Plates in order to appease my future daughter-in-laws.  I clearly have issues in this department.  On my recent trip to Bangkok with friends, two of which were also involved in the turkey plate debacle, we went to a popular store where you can buy silver very inexpensively.  Yada, yada, yada and I ended up with 16 place settings of flatware for the dinner party I never, ever want to have.  16 place settings.  That is 80 pieces of silverware AND I ended up with appetizer forks because apparently if I don't have appetizer forks to go with the Turkey Plates, my daughter-in-laws will never want to celebrate holidays at my house.  And I will never get to see my grandbabies.

2.  I recently finished one of my favorite books of all times.  If you are looking for a good summer read, I highly recommend The Dovekeepers.  It's a story based on Josephus's writings about Masada and it was carry it around in your purse kind of wonderful.  Another favorite from this Spring was The Forgotten Garden.  I have to host Book Club at my house this Thursday and I haven't even started reading the book I had chosen.  I figure I can throw out some appetizers with their own special appetizer forks and distract everyone enough that maybe they won't notice.  Better yet, I'll put the appetizers on a Turkey Plate.  Book?  What book?

3.  There is not one person in the world that makes me laugh harder than my man.  We have had some good laughs lately and that is a good thing.

4.  In light of recent hair events I no longer have curl in the last 3 inches of my hair.  I can say with absolute and complete honesty that I didn't think I had vanity issues that needed to be addressed.  Clearly, I was mistaken.

5.  Last week was a rough week.  I have been mulling over some things.....lots of things.....and I think it all came to a head.  As a Christian woman, there is a very fine line between living a life that is bold about who I am in Christ and living a life that is void of compromise and judgement and pride.  I want to do well in living life as a godly woman but I fail a lot.  A whole lot.  Many times I can accept grace and mercy and bounce right back but last week I could barely get off my knees.  Those are some of the hardest and the sweetest moments......when I feel like the only way I get back on my feet is when He offers me a hand to help me up.

6.    I watched Garrett ask for a girl's phone number a few days ago.  I had a moment.

7.  I can not wait to drive a car.  I feel like I am going to hurl most of the time when I'm in the back of a taxi and I am just excited to jump in a car and go anywhere I'd like at any moment without the stress of wondering if I have enough cash in my wallet.  

8.  Nathan has his last field trip this Friday to a water park.  They have been on no less than 5 field trips this year and I haven't gone on a single one so I thought I'd finish off the year......and his elementary school days......with a bang.  Oh my.  Nathan was not thrilled at all that I was going.  I think he envisioned me running around in my tacky tankini begging to go down slides with him.  He was relieved when I told him I had zero interest in being anywhere near a bathing suit......or him.  I'll just make him hold my hand when we cross the street and then he's free to go!

9.  I am going into this summer feeling much more emotionally stable than I did last summer.  And all God's people yelled "Amen!".  Last summer I had this driving need for Houston to feel like it was still home....except it wasn't which sent me on an emotional roller coaster.  This year I am going home with the expectation of seeing people I love and being absolutely okay with where I currently live.  I think it's going to be much, much better.  If you run into me weeping in the aisles of Target or eating my 9th basket of chips at Chuys or drinking my 29th Route 44 Diet Coke with lime......then you know that clearly I was delusional in thinking this summer would be easier and an intervention may be in order.

10.  Mmmmmm.......Chuy's.  I am 9 days away from Chuys.

May 23, 2012

Pride? Check!

About this time last year I was in the throes of a blogging challenge I had set for myself.  I was actually doing pretty well keeping up with the "blog every day" thing and it was fun.  I would link most posts to Facebook because that's the only way close friends and family would see it.  I never had any delusions of grandeur......I knew it was some silly stories and random thoughts put out there that few would love.

I was good with that.

Then I was told that linking my blog to Facebook was "self-promoting".  That stung a bit but I was glad for the pride check.  I had to make sure I wasn't doing it for any selfish gain and just to make it easier for family and friends to access stuff I wrote about our life.  

And besides, isn't the whole premise behind Facebook self-promoting?  Just sayin'.......

The year went on.  I blogged.....I didn't blog.  

But I did Facebook....a lot.  It was an easy way to avoid things I needed to do, an easy way to keep up with what everyone and their kids and dogs and cats and grandparents were doing.  It made me feel connected.  

That is, until I realized that reading Facebook could actually alter my mood.  I would be happy, mad, jealous, disgusted, excited, insecure.

Really?  How lame is that?  Could I seriously not just take 5 minutes to read about what everyone is doing without wanting to yell at my teen for not being a perfect athlete, student and muscisian? Or discontent with my husband because he hasn't bought me a boat?  Or down on myself for being incredibly underachieving?  

These are clearly my issues and I'm certainly not faulting anyone for having perfect kids, boats, and achievements.  I'm not.

I just didn't think I was vulnerable enough to react like I did.

This year's pride check?  Epic Fail

I did what any overreacting, hormonal woman would do.  I threw out a cryptic Facebook message about taking time off and then disconnected my account.  Like I thought there would be great wailing and gnashing of teeth if I was absent for a week or two until I could get my act together.  

Then I started to worry that friends would think I had defriended them.  Oh the horrors!  We couldn't have that!  

So I reactivated my account.  

I clearly have issues.

Needless to say, I practiced the long lost art of self-control and didn't look at a single status update yesterday or today.  I got a ton done and can 100% blame all mood swings on my children.

Except they cleaned the kitchen for me tonight when I had to go to a meeting and I must share this note that I found when I got home.

Ok, so I won't be bragging about any spelling awards and his handwriting is clearly indicative of his future as a doctor, but how adorable that the child does know how to write a good salutation!

Makes you jealous, right?  Heehee

May 21, 2012


My computer was shut down for the night and I wandered into the kitchen for my almost nightly ritual of an apple and Nutella.  I justify the Nutella because it is merely a dip for a very healthy apple thus it is void of all calories and fat.  Kind of like when you dip carrots and celery into blue cheese dressing after your 13 year old finishes the wings that were on the plate.

Not that any of those things happened tonight or anything.

I had shut down my computer purposefully avoiding writing a blog post tonight.  I am just not in the mood.

I have a dear friend in Houston who lost her mother suddenly (whom I also adored) and the funeral is today and I should be there.  It's the sacrifice of being so incredibly far away.  It honestly makes me go stir crazy because I should be there.....not here, thousands and thousands of miles away.

I have also struggled today with several skeletons....demons....whatever you want to call them.  It makes me feel weak and that makes me crazy too.

Cue the padded room.

I did actually work out this afternoon with Garrett when he got home from school.  Score one for me!!

There was a small situation where he reacted in a way that makes me crazy so I didn't waste a moment in correcting him.  I started in with the familiar words of parental brilliance and he started mumbling his two favorite words:

I know, I know!

I quickly informed him that clearly he doesn't know because if he did, in fact, know, he wouldn't do the same thing over and over and over again.  He was irritated, I was frustrated.  

Then I fed him and the situation was quickly diffused.

Fast forward to 10 minutes ago when my computer was shut down, apple washed and ready to be cut and Nutella primed and ready on the counter.  I'm irritated and feeling defeated.  I hear a small voice in my spirit correcting me.....convicting me.

I know, I know!!!

And then I had to laugh.  

I could almost see God on His throne leaning over to Jesus saying, "Wait for it.....wait for it".

Yep.  Clearly I don't know because if I did, in fact, know, I wouldn't do the same thing over and over and over again.  

What Garrett and I were both missing today?

It's not the knowing that we've stepped out of line....made a bad choice.....caved into temptation once again.  It's the determination to change, that comes from the knowing, that alters everything.  

Every single thing.

What I'm needing tonight?  A healthy dose of determination.

And a time machine so I can be with my sweet friends today.

Is that too much to ask?

May 17, 2012

One Night in Bangkok

I have clearly now failed in my attempts at blogging every single day.

I also failed at not eating sugar today.

Perfection continues to allude me.

I returned in the wee hours of Wednesday morning from a short girl's trip to Bangkok.  It was my adventure group minus three of our girls who couldn't make it.  We are saying goodbye to Katie and Sharon in the next couple of weeks and an adventurous trip seemed the only way to properly send them off.

All this leaving and saying good-bye just sucks.

I apologize for being crass but using the word "stinks" or "yucky" just doesn't adequately describe how hard it is.  

People come and go quickly.  Most don't really know when their time is going to be up.  There are those who come for two years and are still here after ten.  There are those who come for two years and find out six months into their stay that they are going back.

Many lunch conversations center around guessing and anticipating where life will have any one of us in the next year.  It is odd to be with friends and not one of them knows for sure where they'll be living 12 months from now.  

It certainly brings a sense of urgency to life.  Not a school vacation is wasted when there are places in this part of the world to see.  There are adventures to be had and conversations to enjoy.  Dinner parties to plan and sightseeing to be done.  You invest in your friends because you need them to survive.  You embrace differences in culture and backgrounds because those things make life richer.  

One night in Bangkok we sat around a dinner table.  Six of us that don't come from the same place, believe in the same things, or know where life is leading us next.  Six of us that were able to toast friendships that have strengthened and enriched our lives and stretched our thinking.  Six of us that knew, without giving voice to it, that we'd never have that moment again.  Six of us that missed the three that weren't there.  Six of us that will never forget how our lives crossed in this small country.  Six of us that would say our lives are better for it.  

To all of my friends that are leaving........I will miss you terribly.  You will leave a void but I'm thankful for every moment we had together......I just wish we had many, many more.

Thank you for making me realize what it means to live a life of urgency.  To not waste a single moment when every moment counts for something.

"But about that day or hour, no one knows, not even the angles in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.  Be on guard!  Be alert!  You do not know when that time will come."  Mark 23: 32-33

May 11, 2012

Round 3

It is way past time to wrap up this ongoing hair saga.

Can I get an "Amen"?

Yesterday, I went the whole day trying to own my new dark somewhat Gothic look.  I wore black and dark a tattoo and a few extra piercings.  

Just kidding mom!!  

My favorite reaction was a girlfriend of mine who walked into a party I was at, took one look at me, told me she loved me and then gave me a hug.  I love that she didn't even try to pretend that she liked it!  I do have some friends that are somewhat edgey that love the dark hair but I wasn't convinced I could pull it off.

So back to the salon today for Round 3.

The manager met me at the door and we reviewed again what I was ultimately looking for.

Chestnut with golden highlights.  

You know how when you get a new car all of a sudden you notice that car everywhere you go?  Or when you're pregnant it seems like you see pregnant women everywhere?  

Chestnut with golden highlights was checking out as I was checking in......chestnut with golden highlights was just finishing up in the chair next to me.  Chestnut with golden highlights walked past me.  

We all knew that I needed to let go of my chestnut with golden highlight dreams.  

The repair work commenced and I was ready.  Sandwich, computer, my own book, water......and the guy responsible for ashy green in the background.  That's not awkward or anything.

I was a bit nervous as foils were put on my head.  For the record, I would like to say that it is possible to inhale chemicals for over 6 hours and live.  

Foils came out and I had white streaks, there was panic, near tears, reassurance that it would be fine, a toning process of some kind, more hair washing, and then a conditioning treatment that involved a machine my head was strapped into and had smoke coming out of it.

Of course.  Because why would any part of this whole thing be normal?

The thing came off, two inches of damaged hair was cut off and there was great rejoicing when my hair was still intact and was a lighter shade of Karma Bites after 4 hours of work.  I jumped out of the chair and hugged the girl more relieved than I should be for something as silly as my hair.

After getting home and watching relief flood the faces of my boys, I attempted the self-photograph.  I took one picture and realized my nose is definitely bigger than it used to be.

Darn chemicals.

I powdered my nose and put on lipstick and laughed at myself for being so silly about this.  Then I proceeded to take no less than 15 different pictures.....of myself.  15.  

Nose looks enormous hither?  Too much Keri needs botox? 

Too strange looking....

That definitely solves the nose problem..... would help if you could actually see my hair.

This is ridiculous.....I give up.  We're done.  

May 09, 2012

Karma Bites

I know that it's not nice to talk about people.  I have gotten myself in trouble more than once over the years for chatting about someone behind their back.

Remember yesterday's post?  The one where I was talking about "kinda" breaking up with my hair lady?  The one where I didn't really say anything mean about her.....just the fact that she is very timely and prefers the color orange?

Today, karma bit me in the hiney.

I don't really believe in karma so maybe we'll say this is what I get for talking about our breakup online.  

I left off yesterday's post talking about handcuffs.  

No, wait.  That's for another time. 

I left off yesterday's post talking about my ashy, green hair.  Just for the record?  Ash should never, ever, ever be a hair color.  

Friend:  What does your hair look like?

Me:  It looks like ash.

Friend:  It looks like WHAT??

Me:  Ash!  I said ash.

Someone in the hair industry should be fired for thinking that was a legitimate hair color.

After tossing and turning last night about the hair situation I decided to be assertive in trying to get it fixed.  This is not a comfortable thing for me but I can't go on with ashy green hair.  I just can't.

I went back to the lovely place that did my hair and the wonderful ladies behind the counter were easily able to see the reason I was requesting a redo.  The manager happened to be standing there and she promised it would be fixed at no charge.  In fact, I could get squeezed in today!  They hooked me up with someone other than the person who was responsible for the ashy green and I went on my merry way happy that my issue would soon be resolved and proud of myself for taking a stand.

I returned for my appointment and showed my new person the exact color I wanted.  He concurred about the green and promised me he would fix me all up.  We chatted, I read more about the Kardashians, I was shampooed and then.............

Then I was introduced to my new hair color that I affectionately call Karma Bites.

I was going for a warm chestnut brown color with golden highlights.  Apparently the only chestnuts my hairdresser had ever seen were burnt to a crisp.

Needless to say, I barely made it out of the salon with my manners still intact.

I walked into my house and the boys were NOT happy.

Nathan was downright mad at me demanding to know why in the world I wanted my hair that dark.  It was his turn to pray at dinner tonight and after praying for Garrett and his schoolwork, Scot and his work, he prayed that God would help mom and "her horrible hair situation".

Garrett's response to my hair?

Mom, you look like Megan Fox from the back!  Well, your head does anyway.


As for Scot?  Scot is a man that has been married to me for almost 17 years.  He knows how to handle these situations like a pro.  Lots of tip toeing around me, gentle smiles, offers to do whatever is needed around the house.  

Tonight I got a call from the salon manager.  She had heard about my head full of Karma Bites and wants me back on Friday to try and fix it again.  

I have Nathan praying now that I won't go bald from all the chemicals my scalp will have been exposed to by the time this is all over.  

May 08, 2012

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Today I "kinda" broke up with the lady who has done my hair since we've moved here.

I can say "kinda" because she doesn't know yet that we've broken up.  She is not one to forgive easily so I didn't want to burn that bridge until I had completely crossed to the other side.

And I'm still rehearsing the whole "It's not you, it's me" speech.

The truth is that I'm a little afraid of her.  She works alone out of her apartment and if you happen to be late........well, few have survived to tell the tale.  Sometimes she's in a good mood and sometimes she's not.  It takes exactly 2.9 seconds to figure out what you're dealing with that day.

The good thing about the hairdresser I've only kinda broken up with?

She's cheap.

A cut and color here in Singapore can run you close to $400.  She charges me $75.  It's amazing how much a girl can put up with for that much of a discount.

Another good thing?

Oh,  how I love this heater/dryer thing circa 1950.  It drowned out all noise and was warm and amazing.... even if I always had a teeny tiny bit of fear that it would catch my hair on fire.

Or my entire being.

I would say the good far outweighed the bad except for one thing.  No matter how many times I told her I wanted my hair a certain color, it always came out orange.  So orange that people now assume Garrett got his red hair from me.

He didn't.

Unfortunately, the best picture of my orange hair raises all kinds of eyebrows, but we'll just leave that story for another day.

I am way too tall of a person to have that much excitement on top of my head.  I work hard at making my whole being blend.  Looking like an oversized match when that wasn't God's original intention in creating me just became more than I can bear.

Today I put on big sunglasses and a floppy hat and snuck off to another hairdresser.  My heart was beating and I had a hard time breathing in nervous anticipation of what this guy would do to my hair.

Two hours later and I am now the proud owner of ashy, gray, with a tint of green hair and a nice set of highlights.

That's what I get.

Maybe I like orange after all.........well, minus the handcuffs.

May 07, 2012

Being Choosy

Someday my boys will pledge their eternal love to a young lady and will walk into the sunset with her to begin a new life.

Excuse me while I throw up a little in my mouth.

I joke (cry) with friends about the day I will be at the mercy of a daughter-in-law.  What probably makes me the most nervous is that I have not been the most stellar of daughter-in-laws myself.  I know first hand how obnoxious they (I) can be.  

That is why I would like to say that I am totally in favor of arranged marriages.  I'll choose a friend I adore who has a daughter I've watched grow up and BAM!  A marriage made in heaven.  I will inform my boys of my choice and despite cries of protest I will create a world in which no other option will be as appealing as the one I have made for them.

All will be perfect until one day my boy wakes up next to the love I chose for him and realizes it is not a love he chose for himself.  Despite my threats and protests and tears, he will set out to find love for himself.  

Will he return to her?  Will he choose wisely?  Will I even get to be a part of the journey or have I lost my chance to influence?

I sometimes wonder if I am not doing the same in their relationship with God.  They have grown up in a house where they are told what to believe and why.  They are taken to church and surrounded by people who believe the same.

We fight and sometimes lose to the temptation to put them in a bubble where they don't experience "the world".  We choose friends, we shelter and protect because we think if given the choice, they might not love the Person we want them so badly to love.

One day they might realize that the God we've told them to love.....they don't really love at all.

Will he return to Him?  Will he choose wisely?  Will I even get to be a part of the journey or have I lost my chance to influence?

My job is to share and teach as much as I can about having a relationship with a woman.

Treat her with respect.  Choose a woman who doesn't seek attention from others with the way she dresses.  Stay away from a gossip.  Look for kindness and patience.  Make her a priority.  Spoil her.  Treat her well.  Love her.

Make sure she wants to share the grandbabies with her mother-in-law.

My job is to do the same with their relationship with Christ.

Trust Him.  Live a life worthy of His sacrifice.  Talk to Him and let Him talk back.  Seek His will.  Ask for wisdom.  Learn His word.  Worship Him.  Cry to Him.  Love Him.

The best kind of love is love where you know out of all the options in the world, you were chosen.

My job is not to choose for them.

I want my boys to choose her.

I want my boys to choose Him.


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